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This is such a fascinating discussion. One thing that I wonder about as a clinical counselor is about *core shame* as a variable. Those with ADHD diagnosis seem to have more core shame (“Something is wrong with me”) and I wonder if this is tied to genetic brain sensitivity (ie, a brain that is predisposed to emotional sensitivity?) In the ADHD self help literature for women, healing the shame underneath the dysfunction seems to be a big emphasis, and in my experience, it really seems to help decrease the severity of the symptoms. Is shame a “stickier” experience for a genetically sensitive brain? I guess I'm wondering: do stimulants present us with a drug that helps alleviate shame through increased feelings of self-efficacy and the feeling that “now my brain is like normal people’s brains?” If a child in the woods has ADHD but never has an environment that creates any friction for shame to take root, would the symptoms even express themselves at all? In other words, how much of this is environmental and as a result of a brain that genetically tilts towards sensitivity/shame? How many of these individuals have internalized the belief “Something is wrong with me” and the stimulants give them relief through counter evidence (“I can do things in the manner in which I perceive that normal people can?”)?

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Yet another thoughtful and important piece, and I especially appreciate the emphasis on the Venn diagram of ADHD and stimulant benefit being overlapping but non-identical. I also love how you effectively communicate both the framing of ADHD as a distributed, heterogeneous, and idiographic process, and the idea that “attention” itself is a highly transdiagnostic and multifaceted construct rather than a unitary faculty.

I wonder, though, if there is a third clinical dilemma that sits alongside the one you describe. You frame the tension as being between clinicians who see genuine distress but feel constrained by rigid diagnostic boundaries, versus a more pragmatic stance that prioritizes current impairment and benefit over strict adherence to developmental criteria. That dichotomy may well reflect what you see in psychiatry.

From the neuropsychology side, what I encounter much more often is a slightly different situation: many of us see a lot of individuals who are genuinely distressed and sincerely believe they have ADHD, but for whom there is strong objective evidence that they do not currently have clinically significant, functionally impairing attentional or executive deficits. Not only is there often weak evidence for childhood ADHD, but present-day functioning is frequently average to well above average across cognitive testing, occupational functioning, health behaviors, and life outcomes, with little corroboration from objective collateral sources.

These individuals are often highly conscientious, high-achieving, and operating in very demanding environments. Their distress is real -- they feel exhaustion, shame, anxiety, a sense of underperforming relative to peers -- but the clinical picture looks less like a neuropsychological disorder and more like a collision between human limits and extreme expectations (plus stress, sleep, cannabis, social media, modern work demands, etc.).

In these cases, the dilemma is not whether to withhold help out of rigid diagnostic moralism. It’s that diagnosing and prescribing are not neutral acts. Telling someone who is objectively within the normal range of human functioning, “Yes, you have a medical disorder that explains your struggles, and you require ongoing professional intervention” (or even pragmatically just the last part of that statement) carries a lot of implicit messages. Messages about where the problem resides, what kinds of limits are acceptable, what counts as failure, and what sort of relationships (with yourself, with your communities, with your purpose, with society) is encouraged.

I sometimes think the analogy is closer to cosmetic surgery vs. surgical repair for cleft palate. In both cases, there is genuine distress and genuine potential benefit, but the two situations are different, and come with very different ethical, cultural, and professional implications. There may well be a place for something like “cosmetic psychiatry,” where people pursue enhancements or supports they do not medically need but may want and value. What makes me uneasy is when that territory gets collapsed into medical diagnosis (or 'pragmatic diagnosis', if I may use that as shorthand for your pragmatic self-reported distress + potential benefit stance), and when clinicians who resist that move are framed as insufficiently empathic or nuanced.

So, I think I agree with almost everything you’re saying about the science and about the limits of current diagnostic categories. I just want to add that there is also a responsibility on the clinician’s side to hold the line between recognizing distress and reifying it as disorder, especially given the downstream effects on patients, professional norms, and society more broadly. (I'm resisting the temptation here to expand on all of these effects, as you've covered many of them on this very Substack, so I know they're in the background of this post even though the medical diagnosis vs pragmatic stance is being foregrounded).

I just want to gently offer that colleagues who push back against making a medical OR pragmatic diagnosis probably are not looking to deny suffering. They're finding the best answer they can to the question of what kind of story about that suffering we're ethically justified in telling.

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